Irish Eyes Are Watching

The Irish Times news quotes a fascinating statistic about childcare in the U.S. In Sheila Wayman’s legnthy appeal to her government she quoted Dr Orla Doyle of UCD’s School of Public Health and Population Science, who reportedly claims that some $17 are saved for every $1 spent on childcare in the U.S. Funny thing is  the landmark “Cost Quality and Outcomes Study” the first ever inter-disciplinary look at early childhood programs in this country found the very opposite. They found that the majority of these programs nationwide were “mediocre” at best! Perhaps not including those from the childcare field gave them a fresh set of eyes to view this dismal system with.

I certain could not support Dr. Doyle rosey picture after a decade of observing dozens of my own clients in similar settings. I do appreciate other countries wanting to model themselves after us, and trust that our new administration will look more closely at funding a national system with only a “mediocre” track record as ours. 

You can find help with seeing your life long learner launch at sites like this one. http://www.CoachMyParents.com And in the meantime…  Believe well!

Overcoming Autism???

CoachMyParents.com just made it onto Valerie’s List! I have been hearing about this incredible resource for families affected by autism for years. Special needs families talk about her all over the county. So being added to this list is a huge honor.

While combing her newsletter I found an organization with a very similar philosophy as Www.CoachMyParents.com. It is called Son-rise. But get this! Even Oprah knew about it decades ago. And just like me they also ran into s-t-r-o-n-g opposition from those whose income rests on managing dis-eases. Join me and others in dispelling the myths that surround Savvy Parenting. Check out this interview. Then go to http://www.autismtreatmentcenter.org/. Enjoy!

2hrs 4 Their Future

Are we parenting like the ignorant rich?

Is our government to blame?

Is the Federal Reserve snatching our children’s legacy from their cradles?

Or is the bottom line really a housing issue as Warren Buffet explains in the final link below?

 

 

You decide.

 

1 of 3

The 45 minute history of “money” or exchange in America

www.mises.org and the long player version

 

2 of 3

The 5 minute Cliff note version

Ron Paul before the House

 

3 of 3

The 1-hour Warren Buffet Update 2008

Courtesy of Ed Dale

 

 

 

 

Believe well!

 

Adelaide Zindler, B.S., Fp

The Savvy Parent Coach

Executive Producer and Host

***Savvy Parent Radio***

 

http://Www.CoachMyParents.com

where life long learners launch!

Savvy Parent Radio

Hello Guys,

It has certainly been a while since I posted to this video blog and when you listen to my first radio show you’ll know why I’ve been a little pre-occupied lately: not the mention the new website too! Click onto Www.CoachMyParents.com where you’ll also find a link to Savvy Parent Radio. 

Then listen in next week when I’ll be interviewing George Saidah with “Heart of Sailing”. Still working through the aftermath of the events in Houston, he is determined to keep giving special needs children a glimpse of life beyond the shore. Don’t miss it!

You’ll also hear from an amazing line up of parents just like you, MOMpreneurs and others who are thinking outside the box when it comes to parenting at its best! Catch each weekly segment by clicking onto the link. You’ll find it right on the homepage. Let me know what you think of the new format. I’d love to hear from you.

Believe well!

Adelaide Zindler, B.S., Fp

The Savvy Parent Coach

Executive Producer and Host

Savvy Parent Radio

Www.CoachMyParents.com

THE STAIRWELL

Mother’s birthday was yesterday and although we weren’t together, for the first time in 7 years I just wanted to hold her memory in my heart yesterday. So although belated I join you in remembering 911.

Believe well!

You say you will never forget where you were when
you heard the news On September 11, 2001.
Neither will I.

I was on the 110th floor in a smoke filled room
with a man called his wife to say ‘Good-Bye.’ I
held his fingers steady as he dialed. I gave him the
peace to say, ‘Honey, I am not going to make it, but it
is OK..I am ready to go.’

I was with his wife when he called as she fed
breakfast to their children. I held her up as she
tried to understand his words and as she realized
he wasn’t coming home that night.

I was in the stairwell of the 23rd floor when a
woman cried out to Me for help. ‘I have been
knocking on the door of your heart for 50 years!’ I said.
‘Of course I will show you the way home – only
believe in Me now.’

I was at the base of the building with the Priest
ministering to the injured and devastated souls.
I took him home to tend to his Flock in Heaven. He
heard my voice and answered.

I was on all four of those planes, in every seat,
with every prayer. I was with the crew as they
were overtaken. I was in the very hearts of the
believers there, comforting and assuring them that their
faith has saved them.

I was in Texas , Virginia , California , Michigan , Afghanistan …
I was standing next to you when you heard the terrible news.
Did you sense Me?

I want you to know that I saw every face. I knew
every name – though not all know Me. Some met Me
for the first time on the 86th floor.

Some sought Me with their last breath.
Some couldn’t hear Me calling to them through the
smoke and flames; ‘Come to Me… this way… take
my hand.’ Some chose, for the final time, to ignore Me.
But, I was there.

I did not place you in the Tower that day. You
may not know why, but I do. However, if you were
there in that explosive moment in time, would you have
reached for Me?

Sept. 11, 2001, was not the end of the journey
for you. But someday your journey will end. And I
will be there for you as well. Seek Me now while I may
be found. Then, at any moment, you’ll know you are
‘ready to go.’

I will be in the stairwell of your final moments.
During the next 60 seconds, stop whatever you are
doing, and take this opportunity. (Literally it
is only 1 minute.) All you have to do is the
following:

Stop and think and appreciate God’s power
in your life, for doing what you know is pleasing to
Him. If you are not ashamed to do this, follow the
instructions. Jesus said, ‘If you are ashamed of Me, I will be
ashamed of you before My Father’

Marines were bowing their heads in a  photograph. This one is from www.MilitaryMinistry.org and is one among hundreds of thousands of others just like it. That’s because they’ were praying.

This incident took place at a recent ceremony honoring the birthday of the corps, and it has the ACLU up in arms. ‘These are federal employees,’ says Lucius
Traveler, a spokesman for the ACLU , ‘on federal property and on federal
time. For them to pray is clearly an establishment of religion, and we must
nip this in the bud immediately.’ When asked about the ACLU’s charges,
Colonel Jack Fessender, speaking for the Commandant of the Corps said
(cleaned up a bit), ‘Screw the ACLU.’ GOD Bless Our Warriors, Send the ACLU
to France May God Bless America , One Nation Under GOD! So what’s wrong with the picture afterall? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!

Pre-School Targets

All across America the U.S. Department of Education is fighting bankruptcy, even in historic districts like Fallbrook, California. So after teaching in public, private and even hospital settings, I also started seeking out alternatives. Speaking of back-to-school and reccession proofing, I found an interesting post on Mom Talk Network. Sounds like Carrie Lauth of Natural Moms Talk Radio has been doing some homework of her own!

Yet how can an un-credentialed parent call themselves a legitimate teacher? Even Costco has joined this debate http://www.costcoconnection.com/connection/200809/?u1=texterity%C2%A0. Despite having a Bachelor’s I didn’t feel capable of guiding my own child’s learning without someone watching over my shoulder.

Then a veteran home-school teacher challenged me to come up with the name of one person better equipped to maximize our children’s potential more than us. By the time she and her colleagues loaded me up with tools from the Latin alphabet, U.S. and World History, even for pre-k, I had no choice but to get over myself and just weigh the facts.

I surveyed every alternative educator I could, meeting those who’ve left academia, media, fortune 500’s, and Internet businesses…  While others have designed careers around their children. Executive and otherwise, these are some s-a-v-v-y parents.

Like the Landscape Architect whose 9-year old gets instruction from a physicist and others: not to mention their intimate relationship. He constructs working waterfalls from scratch!

Or take the owner of a chain of indoor playhouses, whose elementary school daughter teaches peers about business after school. Or the cosmetic designer I met on Fox News, whose 18 year old just debuted her own clothing line.

A former executive from CNN told me that working Moms often view stay-at-home Moms with disdain. She says it hurts to see others almost snap their finger and have their child respond. What parent doesn’t want that, especially in public?

If you are wondering about your child being il-equipped, I have good news for you. You don’t have to just hope for the best. You don’t have to go around aching inside either. Savvy parents are turning out the next generation of thought leaders every day by paving their own way. And so can you!

Every family dynamic is unique. Yet the stability that produces optimal students and some of the most influential adults is well within your grasp.  Take it from the same parent who mentored me. No one knows how to bring out the best in your child more than you do! If you’d like more information or want to see a topic covered here log onto http://Www.CoachMyParents.com and shoot me over an email. Or better yet place your comment right here! 

Believe well!

Adelaide Zindler, B.S., Fp

The Savvy Parent Coach

http://Www.CoachMyParents.com

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Tie/Cologne Capers

Does raising your child(ren) bring back your own memories? It does alot for me.

When I was only a few years old I remember my heart overflowing with love for my grandfather: to the point that my grandmother often got jealous. He was tall, handsome, and on the go to places I imagined to be spectacular just like him! But I spent alot more time in the kitchen with her, as they were gracious enough to raise me during my formative years. Not that she taught me how to cook nearly as much as how to clean the bowl of batter from her baking. Yum!

One day while Papa was at work I spent the morning trying to figure out what I could do to show my love for him. His room was always immaculate, and the yard well manicured. Nothing out of place, not even the ties in his closet. So how was I going to send a clear message to him? I found a wonderful smelling cologne on his dresser and suddenly it hit me! If I sprayed his room the aroma would welcome him home. And since it was a smell he obviously liked too, how could I possibly loose?

I remember having the time of my life twirling around like Mary Poppins filling his room with scent, and my heart with joy. I couldn’t wait for him to get home. When the moment finally came, he walked into his room without saying a word, until he found my grandmother that is. After they talked about it he asked me if I had done it. I knew immediately that we weren’t on the same page on this one. So out of fear I lied to him for the first and last time. I got a butt whippin and seriously rethought my concept of zeal after that!

Now that I’m a parent (not yet a grandparent though) I am watching my daughter do some of the exact same antics that I did at her age. Like pulling every single one of her Daddy’s ties down from the closet. I first thought of going into shock and cleaning the whole mess up myself, until she began describing her experience to me. She talked about how soft they all were, which ones were her favorites, how many beautiful colors there were and on and on… But her favorite part of all was laying in them and feeling their textures next to her skin. Not surprising both of us liked his animal tie the best! So there I was facing a real mess.

But instead of lashing out at her we talked about what a huge job she would have putting them all back! It took a few times of me showing her how to get them back up there, and even more time figuring out how to pile chairs and pillows high enough for her to reach. But after 2 days of working at a pre-schooler’s pace, she finally got the job done. Of course Daddy was shocked to find his ties on the floor until I explained how we were restoring order. Then he was just fine with the whole thing. How I adore that man! But that’s a post in itself!!!

So how are you choosing to respond when love overflows from your “Little Scientist(s)?” How powerful that you are creating that high a level of spiritual and emotional safety for the loved ones in your home! You go Savvy One! I look forward to hearing your story. in the meantime…

Believe well!

Adelaide Zindler, B.S., Fp
The Savvy Parent Coach

Http;//Www.CoachMyParents.com

… Coaching Savvy Parents to Their Goal Line From The Womb to The Classroom.

Pool/MOMpreneur

This was just pure fun! We visited a friend’s church this past weekend and had such a wonderful time. I won’t soon forget the hospitality we were shown in a quaint little town called Temecula, California. While we shared a meal we got into a conversation about time management. Our friend is a comptroller who carpools. Because she crunches numbers it made perfect since that she would find a way to beast the gas prices and recapture her time too.

She talked about how much more efficient she became knowing others depend on her to be in the van on time. She does a few noteworthy things to cut corners.

• Requiring all late afternoon meetings to be prescheduled
• bundling paperwork based on highest priority items first
• Designating a certain day just for running errands
• Enjoying life more with the extra time without ”busy work”…

Well guess what guys? This really got me thinking how much this same procedure is a natural part of my lifestyle as a Mompreneur. Since Daddy got off from work this evening…

• I’ve been to three stores looking for a plug to work from my car which I found
• Bought a new hands-free phone set up, since California laws have changed
• Written two posts while sitting in the parking lot of the store.
• Been to the credit union
• Had dinner while reviewing loan closing documents (finally sold units in this sad economy. Ugh!)
• Developed tomorrow’s to-do’s list…
• Found a nearby beauty school with incredible massage rates
• Found a new Nordstrom Rack with good reviews (I hate shopping but need to before event in 2 days)

So as I think about it my day started at night but has been quite productive. And since I accomplished so much this evening I’ll celebrate in the morning with a fun breakfast and maybe head for the pool or…? Who knows? I’ve just recouped so much time we may even go to the Acquarium and enjoy the shark diver in action.

Believe well!

Adelaide Zindler, B.S., Fp

The Savvy Parent Coach

http://Www.CoachMyParents.com

… Coaching Savvy Parents to Their Goal Line From The Womb to The Classroom.

“I’ll Never Spank?”

Yep! There are times when I feel like most exasperated parents. My little scientist is on a roll this time. She moved her furniture around and even brought some of it into my bedroom. I see interior design, wardrobe architect, chef or some combination in this girl’s future. She has a real eye for color. This time taking every single one of my fresh herbs and spices out to develop a new recipe. She was enjoying it all so much! I have to admit the aroma of the nutmeg and cardamon settled me too.

 

She is almost always engaged in activity that inspires her. If I have not designed it in advance you can best believe she’s got that covered! This question about spanking is one that I’ve been asked many times before. If you also wonder about this topic you’ll really enjoy my audio interview with Dr. Tom Roberts, current chair of Child Development at San Diego State University. Its packed! Here’s how I respond to this question on Ivillage.

 

You definitely can choose how you will parent your child! Yet most of us follow the patterns established by our parents without giving it much thought. Our family spends a lot of time around animals, and I notice their discipline is rarely harsh, let alone physical. Most of time it is in their tone of voice or a gentle nudging that sets their animal offspring straight. As humans we have the distinct advantage of considering a more longterm strategy. I enjoy coaching parents who spank with fun questions that get them thinking deeper (more long term) although I’m still figuring out how to do this with my own loved ones. Ugh!

 

For example when a parent affirms spanking to be their discipline of choice, I may ask, “How effective have you found this approach in helping your child reach a desired outcome”? They will often say that it works well. So I will ask, “So you don’t have to spank them again for the same behavior?” And they usually admit to wearing each other out repeating this endless cycle.

 

Let me share a few examples of how another approach is already proving itself effective. By the way, these tips apply to toddler too. When a child is developing their interpersonal skills and learning to become a part of the big picture they are usually empowered by…

• Wiping the wound when they hurt someone (whether a wound exists or even if they want to or not)
• Attempting to clean milk when they spill it (and not based on whether they get it all up perfectly)
• Putting away toys after playing with them (Even if it means taking them out one at a time at first)
• Helping set the table before eating (perhaps napkins or something else your choose initially)
• Making  their bed after sleeping (without insistance on a military tuck for newbies)
• Helping unload and reload the sand toys at the beach…

Get the idea? Often the very things that take us over the edge can also lead to powerful traditions for the whole family. By contrast, I have not observed a small child be able to connect the crime to the punishment when “time out” is the discipline of choice. When we need to step back before reacting out of our history, this makes perfect sense though. Obviously for older children the rules of engagement will optimize their analytical stage of development when they are at their best. But that’ s another post altogether. So in the meantime…

 

Believe well!

Adelaide Zindler, B.S., Fp

The Savvy Parent Coach

http://Www.CoachMyParents.com

 

…Coaching savvy parents to their goal line from the womb to the classroom.

Purpose of Painting

We should have a purpose for you shortly.

                                

Some say it depends on the artist… 

 

 

 

 

Expressing their inner soul, bearing it all for the public, but for others is it about Sunday afternoons, and the pleasure of mixing paint, smearing it on a canvas and seeing the results. For some it is the sheer joy of creating something when their workday lives are so sterile and void of pleasure, others struggle through each painting as if it were a minefield ready to blow them up. And for others it is somewhere in between.

 

 

 

 

 

Startpoint

 

 

 

 

 

Either way it is captivating to watch the keen ability of a pre-schooler who is fully indulging their creative side. An artist that my husband worked with once, could very well have been contracted by Disney. And it all started with a princess bedroom designed with the visionary thinking her daddy had.   

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

He shared that from the time his little girl could hold a crayon, he decided that her bedroom walls would become her first canvas. She spent enough time there, so it made since for it to also be the place where her left brain could roam free. As she grew so did her attention to artist detail. Having a seemingly endless backdrop to express herself, and an uninhibited imagination all served her quite well in the end.

She went on to earn a viable income doing what she loved. Did she have a natural gift that her father recognized or did he give her the opportunity for ability to develop?

What do you believe about cultivating talent in our children? Post a comment and share your thoughts right here! And in the meantime…

 

Belleve well!

Adelaide Zindler, B.S., Fp

The Savvy Parent Coach

http://Www.CoachMyParents.com

…Coaching savvy parents to their goal line for their children from the womb to the classroom.