Obama Back-to-School

 

Thanks again for another thought provoking story ABC!

 

This is a question of importance for all of us to consider: both parents and educators alike. Where should we place our most vulnerable, and what environment will provide them with the best start in life?

 

What will be powerful is if we choose to consider the first ladies choice alongside our own. It is so easy to analyze a situation when we see ourselves being far removed from it. But are we really? It is no feat to also make curbside decisions for other people! Yet if what I am reading is a true representation of the first lady’s passion for motherhood, she will continue to make rewarding choices for her children’s education: where ever they settle. Which ever program she chooses will have her involvement, just like the dads in this story http://abcnews.go.com/WN/story?id=6271282&page=1.

 

Strong parental involvement is what makes the best education for all of our most vulnerable. I asked this tough question of the President elect in one of my first posts, after learning about his position on Universal Preschool. http://thesavvyparentcoach.wordpress.com/2008/08/27/senator-obama-i-have-a-question.  

 

Just like the Obama’s you and I also have a similar responsibility for guarding our children’s most impressionable years! Thanks again for reminding us to focus on what truly matters most. You guys are really on a roll and this kind of reporting rocks!!!

 

Believe well!

 

Adelaide Zindler, B.S., FP

The Savvy Parent Coach and Genpreneur

http://www.CoachMyParents.com

 

where life long learners launch!

source:

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Parenting/comments?type=story&id=6235522

Irish Eyes Are Watching

The Irish Times news quotes a fascinating statistic about childcare in the U.S. In Sheila Wayman’s legnthy appeal to her government she quoted Dr Orla Doyle of UCD’s School of Public Health and Population Science, who reportedly claims that some $17 are saved for every $1 spent on childcare in the U.S. Funny thing is  the landmark “Cost Quality and Outcomes Study” the first ever inter-disciplinary look at early childhood programs in this country found the very opposite. They found that the majority of these programs nationwide were “mediocre” at best! Perhaps not including those from the childcare field gave them a fresh set of eyes to view this dismal system with.

I certain could not support Dr. Doyle rosey picture after a decade of observing dozens of my own clients in similar settings. I do appreciate other countries wanting to model themselves after us, and trust that our new administration will look more closely at funding a national system with only a “mediocre” track record as ours. 

You can find help with seeing your life long learner launch at sites like this one. http://www.CoachMyParents.com And in the meantime…  Believe well!

Parent & Child Partners

According to Julia Tanen, President of The Tanen Group over 5.4 million of us choose to leave our careers for our children. So here’s what some are now turning to instead!

Just read a post on a blog by Angela J. Bass where she interviewed mothers and their daughters who have successfully entered into businesses together. Talk about ladies who launch! These dymanic duos are an inspiration to all of us who are in throws of running a business with small children by our side. Just goes to show what can happen when we see each others strengths right from the start!

You’ll find help for your journey through the maze of business and motherhood at sites like this one. http://www.CoachMyParents.com

The New Cubicle Culture

“The factory of the future will have only two employees, a man and a dog. The man will be there to feed the dog. The dog will be there to keep the man from touching the equipment.

Warren G. Bennis, University of Southern California

Professor of Business Administration;

adviser to Ronald Regan and John F. Kennedy

 

Just read a post predicting a new trend next year. According to Dan Sewell with The Associated Press we should expect to see home-based customer service triple in 2009, confirming what Costco magazine called “the fastest growing business sector in the U.S.” and what I call the new wave of Genpreneurs. Employers are finding a much higher quality, less expensive work force, while those at home are seeking viable alternatives to traffic and gas fluxuations. Its a win-win scenario for both!

 

This also makes the need for services that help smooth the transition of vital importance. And as the Savvy Parent Coach for me that includes the children. After all they are by far the most vulnerable. Learn more about how to operate a successful business from home while also being a parent at sites like this one. http://www.CoachMyParents.com

Mama In the House Yal!

It may seem strange to you but until recently I never thought much about who my spiritual leaders were. My grandmother never gave much in the way of advise. I don’t remember her ever raising her voice to me. Yet at a whisper I would cringe if I thought she was displeased with me. I don’t know how she did it but her love compelled me to the point that her influence is still empowering others in my coaching practice. So why didn’t this occur to me until now?

After reading a few of these lists including The Time’s  list of the most influential people it dawned on me that this is a subjective excercise that I can also participate in.

Sally Mae Scurlock

Pastor Luanna Stines

Sister Hedi Wilson

Virgie Frietas

My little girl

Michelle Obama

You may only have heard one of these names, but each one has impacted my life significantly, and the list is growing rapidly. When I think about potential it is not often historical icons that come to mind, but each of those who have and still do influence my life today. Whether it is a book signing in another state where I don’t know anybody, or a networking event in my own backyard, having to apologize for a mistake I’ve made or facilitating a powerful parent mastermind I hear their voices telling me that I really am this powerful!

Now that my little girl is watching my example I am much more focused on giving her a role model worth looking up too. We make mistakes and experience miracles, then we share these experiences together. And as we talk through them she is learning to also express both trials and triumps with equal enthusiasm. Investing in the kinds of role models that propel me gives her a greater view of mountain top. I have learned that my professional and my parenting decisions often overlap. This lesser known secret makes me even more effective in both arena. What about you? 

You can find out how you do  in maneuvering the world  of business and a baby by taking the Savvy Survey found at http://www.CoachMyParents.com. And in the meantime… Believe well!

That Man of Mine!!!

Having a baby and a business is one thing, but factor in our better half and you have just kicked dynamics up several notches. And we are by no means the exception to this rule at our house. Last night I was really feeling abandoned and exposed by my husband.

 

Until recently I had been loosing my hair in droves, but am finally willing to trust the Lord and stop pretending to be

a self made woman. But that’s another post entirely. So there we were my husband, my daughter and I sitting with my beautician talking about all this, when my husband said to me, “You should read my book and stop stressing out!” I didn’t say anything mean to him or even what I was really thinking. I just sucked it up! On the way home I had a chance to really think about why his words hurt so much. So after praying about it I was able to talk with him in a way that made him think, without creating an even bigger issue than it already was. I told him this.

 

“When you want to really show your love for me you will cover me with your words. So when someone says that I am holding my stress in my hair, your response would be, “Then that’s exactly where I will hold HER! This will make me feel loved and cherished by you!” At first he tried to change to subject, not knowing where to go with that one. But I gently said that I was intentionally not attacking or accusing with my words, but that I had thought about what was making me feel so abandoned

as his wife. He responded by saying that in the future he would try his best to do that for me. Yep! That’s my baby’s Daddy alright!!!

 

I couldn’t believe how quickly he responded. I was not combative but compassionate, allowing him to really hear me, and then affirm what I was trying to say. And as a result of how he responded you better believe we played house in the middle of the night by candle light. So this Proverbs 31 stuff really works! And I encourage you to speak to the outcomes you most want to see in your home too, because despite what anti-family television personalities would like you to believe, you and I are just that powerful! In the meantime…

 

Believe well!

 

Adelaide

 

P.S. As a result of taking our coaching sessions to heart, as of last month my stylist is now married and moving to another state with her new husband. She couldn’t stop talking about how much her new family has welcomed her with open arms. But not to worry she has already found someone she trusts to take care of my hair. J

 

Just like the question I asked in response to President Obama’s weekly address what do you want to see more of in 2009? You can find even more professional parent coaching resources at sites like this one. http://www.CoachMyParents.com.

 

Trampling Our Children

Fighting is a reaction that doesn’t have to be learned, while compassion does. We see it among our most vulnerable when they do not have words to express themselves, and especially when they are in need of more nurturing in how to interact with others. So when MSNBC asked a psychologist about this issue, http://abcnews.go.com/video/playerIndex?id=6252793 he shared that it was not uncommon to see either. They all seemed to feel a sense of relief that the children were removed from their abusive father.

But what I see is a family with generational dysfunction. I can only imagine what the parents experienced that brought them together in the first place. But the knee jerk reaction of the government taking over is equally extreme. In my book, Fearless Parenting I take you behind the scene of what was at that time the single largest child care provider in the County of San Diego. In one case after another systems kids were being abused even within the system that removed them from harms way at home.

When I called the regulatory office in Sacramento with what I personally witnessed while coaching on child in their care, I was told that this provider had a wrap sheet a mile long and that they could tell ME some stories. I also learned that murder was even among their crimes. So why were they still operating with the full knowledge of every California CPS agency from here to Sacramento fully aware of what they are doing? I was told that these kids had no where else to go. They would be on the streets without this program in place. Wow!

Its time to change the paradigm in this country while we still have human life to video tape. Check out http://www.CoachMyParents.com. There really is a better way. I’ve even been on both Fox News and ABC with miraculous success stories well worth viewing. God help us in America!!!!!

Believe well!

Adelaide Zindler, B.S., FP

The Savvy Parent Coach

and now a “Genpreneur”

www.CoachMyParents.com

where life long learners launch!

Trademark Trouble Twist

Man did I get a crash course in business and infringement this week! All this time I’ve been thinking that the term Cobe and Parlapiano popularized for moms in business was meant to be used by all of us, as a way of sharing our collective identity. But was I in the dark on that one! It turns out that I was way out of line, and Ellen Parlapiano sent me a personal email just to tell me so too! Here I am now trying to remember every place I have used the term in my entire life! This morning I emailed a paper I just wrote a new column for with an edited version of my article before they print it. Yikes!

 

I was at an indoor playhouse sharing my idea for a new book with my good friend Stacey Ross from http://www.SanDiegoBargainMama.com when she told me that I’d better look into the use of their name. Then she encouraged me to join her for a presentation she was giving along with Lisa Druxman of http://www.StrollerStrides.com and Mary Goulet from http://www.MomsTown.com. Who knew you could find so many beautiful pearls in one city? But there I was at Dream Dinners with these incredible giving moms. I felt like Heaven had just invaded the Earth! I could hardly keep up with all the thoughts they all threw at me. Talk about a powerful mastermind group! I left there with my head spinning, and my wheels too, because my daughter was going to be late for her bedtime. She was having dinner and playing with a neighbor.

 

I really messed with my attorney law firm too! I just love these guys. We went back and forth and he was really getting into it with me. I was asking him to help me come up with another word. It was so much fun! But in the end he said it was after hours and I needed a marketing person. So as I agonized in prayer with the Master Marketer over how to respond to my need for a handle to go along with my new book, I finally fell off to sleep, when my daughter woke me up around 11pm. She was lying in bed with the light on, and I wasn’t having it. If she wanted to go to gymnastics with her swim buddy Brodie, she needed to cut that light out and fake it til she made it back to sleep, and she did. At least I think so. Well of course I couldn’t get back to sleep after that so hi ho, hi ho. Back to prayer I go. And here is what the Lord dropped right into my brain shortly after midnight. Out of nowhere it seemed like letters of lightening crashed into my brain, tumbling all my incoherent thoughts like dominoes. “Genpreneur!” I heard it so loud in my head that couldn’t possible miss it. God was actually willing to respond to my heart cry! I didn’t want to make anybody mad and neither was I willing to give up on the idea of creating a niche term to compliment the launch of my new book project, and He heard me! You rock Aba Father!!!

 

Some only want to identify themselves as being moms who own businesses, which really seems to be offensive in some circles http://astrology.yahoo.com/channel/money/may-i-call-you-mompreneur-307781 including Eve Tahmincioglu of MSNBC http://yourbiz.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/07/30/287887.aspx . Most refer to themselves as entrepreneurs. So what is “en” anyway? Will somebody please fill me in on that one? Yet most all of us recognize Generations X and Y, baby boomers and beyond. So why not have a term that we can all relate to?  In fact this is just perfect since the focus of CoachMyParents.com for 2009 is on the intergenerational relationships that family business is built on. Check out my new column at MommyMastermind.com http://www.mommymastermind.com/authors/10/Adelaide-Zindler Trust me. Heaven has just invaded Earth! 

 

Believe well!

 

Adelaide Zindler, B.S., FP

The Savvy Parent Coach

And now for the first time

anywhere the “Genpreneur”

www.CoachMyParents.com

 

where life long learners launch!

Obama G-r-a-n-d Mama

“Make sure you marry someone who loves you more than you love them, and your love will grow out of the way they treat you.”

Sally Mae Scurlock, My Grandmother

How powerful was her influence in my life, as were those prophetic words that she spoke into my ears! If only she could see that they have come true for me. What we tell our children effects generations yet to be born. So when I saw this article from www.grandparents.com http://www.grandparents.com/gp/content/newsoftheday/news/article/obama-praises-an-unsung-hero.html I understood the smile on this granny’s face as well as the respect of President Obama just little bit better.

I too have a special place in my heart that has been carved especially for grandparents. In fact this is why I am featuring some who are also running their own businesses in my new book for MOM-preneurs.

I even see myself parenting differently because of their influence in my upbringing. Marian Robinson thanks so much for sharing this journey with our President and his family. We all need you grandma!!! And I also hope you join them in the White House. I know your daughter and son-in-law will feel a lot better about their children’s safety, and I will too!

Believe well!

Adelaide Zindler, B.S., FP
The Savvy Parent Coach, and Genpreneur
http://Www.CoachMyParents.com

Overcoming Autism???

CoachMyParents.com just made it onto Valerie’s List! I have been hearing about this incredible resource for families affected by autism for years. Special needs families talk about her all over the county. So being added to this list is a huge honor.

While combing her newsletter I found an organization with a very similar philosophy as Www.CoachMyParents.com. It is called Son-rise. But get this! Even Oprah knew about it decades ago. And just like me they also ran into s-t-r-o-n-g opposition from those whose income rests on managing dis-eases. Join me and others in dispelling the myths that surround Savvy Parenting. Check out this interview. Then go to http://www.autismtreatmentcenter.org/. Enjoy!